Get Control of Your Life: How to Escape Co-Dependency
If you’ve got a loved one who’s addicted in any way, you may not even be aware of what that relationship has cost you. It may have gone on for so long that the life you once knew has slipped away in bits and pieces until you almost wouldn’t be able to recognize it anymore.
This is what happens when you are trapped into codependency with someone whose actions and needs take over everything else.
For relationships and families to work, there has to be a balance, and if one side of that equation is a drug abuser prescribed or not, gambler, or one with an out of control dysfunction you’ve been compensating on the other side to keep things on an even keel. It’s become your job to avoid tension and conflict so that you can function with a sense of normalcy and present a happy face to the world.
Co-Dependent Enabler
You didn’t willingly sign on for it, but as time goes by, you find that you’ve spiraled into a pattern where you:
Here's a free co-dependency inventory assessment I found on the net.
This is what happens when you are trapped into codependency with someone whose actions and needs take over everything else.
For relationships and families to work, there has to be a balance, and if one side of that equation is a drug abuser prescribed or not, gambler, or one with an out of control dysfunction you’ve been compensating on the other side to keep things on an even keel. It’s become your job to avoid tension and conflict so that you can function with a sense of normalcy and present a happy face to the world.
Co-Dependent Enabler
You didn’t willingly sign on for it, but as time goes by, you find that you’ve spiraled into a pattern where you:
- Feel lost or lonely when you’re by yourself, yet isolate yourself from people other than your partner.
- Are afraid of being rejected or abandoned.
- Define your worth through your dysfunctional partner’s eyes.
- Feel you have lost your own identity.
- Boost your own self-esteem by comparing yourself to your dysfunctional partner.
- Stay with your partner in spite of recognizing his or her unhealthy behavior.
- Give support to your partner at the cost of your own mental, emotional, and physical health.
Here's a free co-dependency inventory assessment I found on the net.
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